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¿Cómo saber si estoy bloqueando mi propio éxito? 

Muchas veces en el camino al emprendimiento hemos de pasar por fracasos o altibajos, tanto emocionales como en los negocios. Muchas veces veremos como se nos van las oportunidades de las manos y cómo estamos careciendo de éxito.

Esto es completamente normal, pero, ¿qué pasa cuando nosotros somos los causantes de estos fracasos?, ¿cómo saber si tú mismo estas boicoteando tus oportunidades?

Hay una frase que no me cansó de escucharla, que dice:

Tú y solo tú eres tu mejor amigo y tu peor enemigo

Pero, ¿qué significa esta frase?, de verdad, ¿qué significa realmente esta frase?

Lo repito, tú y solo tú eres capaz de ser tu peor enemigo o tu mejor amigo. Todo está en la mente, es sumamente poderosa.

Nuestra mente puede ser nuestro mejor aliado

¿Has visto alguna situación de una manera objetiva?, tal vez un problema de un amigo o de un familiar, alguna situación en la que no estés involucrado emocionalmente hablando y das tu opinión desde una perspectiva objetiva. Creo que tú, la persona que estás leyendo esto, alguna vez lo has hecho.

Es ese estado de mente el que debemos dominar, aprender a ver las cosas desde una perspectiva objetiva.

Desde la perspectiva objetiva, vemos las cosas como son, sin emociones, sin apegos, sin rencores, sin NADA.

La clave

¿Cuál es la clave de todo este embrollo mental?, la clave es la objetividad.

Cuando estamos pasando por un problema, por una situación que nos hace decaer, que nos quita la fe, la esperanza en uno mismo, tendemos a boicotear las oportunidades.

No vemos las cosas como realmente son, vemos las cosas como lo sentimos. Es tu mente la que proyecta tu realidad, es tu estado de ánimo el que dicta tu futuro, es la actitud con la que tomas los problemas, la clave para salir adelante o quedarte estancado.

Para poder solucionar un problema, primero debes de tener la cabeza fría, debes de pensar fríamente y sobre todo aprende a analizar.

Muchas veces la mente juega con nosotros, con nuestras emociones, con nuestra manera de ver la vida y la manera de vernos a nosotros. Y no te digo que la mente sea el enemigo, la mente puede ser tu mejor aliado, porque TÚ puedes tener el control si así lo deseas.

En esta historia no hay enemigos, solo aliados, si tú así lo decides.

Cada vez que pases por un problema y tu mente comience a boicotearte recuerda lo siguiente:

  • Salir de ese estado emocional negativo e irte a la zona objetiva
  • Pensar con la cabeza fría y analizar la situación detalladamente (tómate tu tiempo)
  • Evitar los pensamientos negativos
  • Al momento de analizar tus pensamientos e identificar los negativos, tratar de ignorarlos

Fíjate bien que digo ignorarlos, no eliminarlos (los pensamientos). Porque al ignorar estos automáticamente desaparecerán, pero si estás tan enfocado en no pensar negativamente, prestarás más atención a esa clase de pensamientos.

Y debes de saber que pensamientos negativos, miedos y frustraciones, todos tenemos y tendremos, es un proceso normal de la mente. Lo importante es no engancharte.

¿Por qué no te debes de enganchar con tus pensamientos negativos?

Porque no definen lo que realmente eres, ya he dicho con anterioridad esto y es la verdad.

Cuando estés tan enfocado en tus problemas, cuando estés sumido en la negatividad, cuando no veas la salida, recuerda estas declaraciones poderosas:

  • Una idea no te define
  • Las ideas se pueden cambiar
  • Todo en está vida tiene una solución
  • Y si no tiene una solución no vale la pena mortificarse
  • Todo lo que esté sujeto a cambios no es real, es una maquinación de tu mente
  • El temor solo existe en dos tiempos, pasado y futuro, por lo tanto el temor no existe, es un invento de tu mente

Recuerda todo esto, créeme que te será de mucha ayuda.

Y para finalizar con todo esto, debo de decirte algo muy importante.

El creador de tu destino eres tú, tú eres el responsable de la clase de vida que lleves, aunque no lo creas, así es. Las ideas son tan poderosas que van labrando nuestro futuro.

La actitud con la que tomamos problemas y los tropiezos también definen nuestro futuro, una buena actitud lo es todo en momentos de crisis.

Tú eres el mejor aliado que puedes tener, tú eres el motor de tu vida, eres tan poderoso que si estás boicoteando tu éxito es porque de manera inconsciente no crees que eres capaz, pero si lo eres, siempre serás capaz de todo lo que te propongas.

La clave para lograr lo que deseas es creer en ti, y aunque suene trillado, tener fe en ti, en tu capacidad y tu potencial, se nota, se contagia y es digno de admiración.

Discipline: The key to success

Do you know how much you can achieve with greater self-discipline?

Discipline is a very important virtue if you want to achieve success in your life.

And yes, sometimes the discipline is very difficult to develop, I could tell you that many people tend to fail because they lack discipline, with which they achieve much or practically nothing.

But all is not lost, that being difficult at the beginning does not mean that you can not develop it, that you can not work in your discipline.

Once you have it, do not waste it. Be enchanted in her, this virtue will help you a lot to get what you want.

I will tell you 7 tips so you can work on your discipline more easily.

1. They have a passion for what they do

Doing your job with passion is essential to succeed. If you do something you love, you will not get tired and discipline will develop in a natural and less forced way.

When you love what you do, nothing is forced. Do not avoid doing hard work, or “not fun”, on the contrary, as you have passion, you are happy with your work, therefore, everything will be much better.

2. Goodbye to distractions

Procasting is very easy when we do not do what we like. That is why the first point is of the utmost importance.

Another point is to avoid distractions, this will help you to be more disciplined. This goes hand in hand with a firm conviction to know what you have and should do.

Establishing schedules can be good help for distractions such as cell phones, social networks, television, etc. Do not affect your productivity.

What is more important? Take out your work or spend all day on Facebook. Establish priorities.

3. Reward progress

Knowing that discipline is not an easy process, I recommend that when you meet your goals for the day, schedules, etc. Give yourself a small prize, to remind yourself that you are doing things right.

This will help you as a motivating factor, you can also reward yourself with breaks, clear up a bit to return to your tasks with a clearer mind, anyway. The reward varies and everything depends on you. But remember to reward yourself for your effort and your work.

4. They do the hardest thing first

As I mentioned in the first point, when there is passion in your work, the most difficult part is not left for later. On the contrary, many people choose to start on that side. Do not put it off, work on it.

I had a coach who always told me that in order to have discipline he would embrace what he would least like to do, in this case it was running.

So I decided to go running every day, even 30 minutes, although I did not want to, I would learn to hug him and start loving him. This is how the discipline works, the hardest thing is not left for later, it is done NOW.

5. Make decisions

Discipline is based on elections. In fact, life is based on choices, but you must remember that there is a reaction to each action or its consequences.

At all times you are deciding what you should do, what you really need or what you want?

Analyze the panorama, and think your choices well. Always try to analyze all the possible information and then make the decision.

6. Use your schedules in your favor

Do not fight against your natural routine. If you are better in the morning, work then. If you do it better during the day, start later.

Nor am I telling you not to do anything, but we definitely have times or times where we are more creative, we work more, we are more productive. Knowing this, make the most of it.

7. Less talk and more acting

This is sometimes the only way to be self-disciplined. You just have to do it. Forget the thoughts. Ignore the feelings. Do not worry about how. Just do what you have to do. Sometimes you just have to try, fail and try again until you solve it.


BONUS

As a very personal advice I will tell you, that my way of being disciplined is the following: When I am about to fail my objectives, when I feel I can not do it anymore, I use visualization power and I wonder how I want to see myself in so many years or months ?, how do I want it to be my future?

Visualizing my future, it helps me a lot more to stay motivated and not give up. Many times I know that you will want to surrender and no longer follow. But remember the reason why you started, that you do not forget that feeling or that desire. Work on it and move on, the reward is closer than you imagine.

Invest in yourself

Take the time to invest in yourself. Your future depends on that.

How many times have we not spent on things that do not make sense or do not really benefit us, I would say enough.

Many times we forget to invest our time and money in the most important … OURSELVES.

Why is it so important to invest in ourselves?

You must be clear, that if you do not work on yourself, if you do not invest in yourself to improve day by day, it will be difficult to first achieve what you set out to do, and maybe the future you have planned will be very different from what you can get.

You are the most important thing in what you can invest your time and your money

An investment in yourself is a great example of self-love, and it may be the most profitable investment you will ever make in your life.

If you want to sabotage what you have planned or your vision of your ideal future, you can start ignoring that you should invest time and money to improve.

No improvement in our lives will happen automatically without us working on them. If we want to improve, we have to work on it.

But this requires courage, the courage to take action on the matter to improve.

It requires discipline, a decision that is stable, do not change your mind from one day to the next.

Remember that:

The effort you invest in consistently investing in yourself will also play an important role in determining the quality of your life now and in the future.

Invest in areas of your life that really pay back something that is positive for you.

Some examples can be:

Invest in knowledge

If people knew the wealth that is in a book, they would have already stormed the bookstores, but it is not like that …

Knowledge is power, I have always said it, the more you learn, the more prepared you will be for different situations in your life.

Apart from this, it is something that will never end, because the more we learn, the more we realize that we have much to learn.

Educating ourselves is an actor of self-love, training us will make us improve in many aspects of our lives.

Invest in your health

We are the most important thing in our life, that is why we must be in optimal conditions to be able to perform our daily activities in a good way.

Investing in your health is really a great investment.

Eat healthy, exercise, practice sports, everything that helps us improve our quality of life, will never be a waste of time or money.

How do you pretend to achieve your dreams, if you are not healthy?

These are just some examples, but you can also invest in improving your creativity, improve your confidence, improve many things.

The point is not to stop investing in you, invest time also in things that you love to do, that you are passionate about, that distract you.

Even a good holiday, you can also invest in that, it will help you to be calmer, to relax and return with all the energy to your daily activities.

The most important thing is that you really know, that here the most important thing is you and everything you do for you, will always be an excellent decision.

Can we all be leaders?

Many times I have been asked this question, can we all be leaders?

It is a challenging question, and the answer may not like many, but I think we can all be leaders, the question is if we all want to be leaders.

What is it to be a leader?

Many ideas come to my mind when I hear the word “leader”, some relate it to a person who is worthy of admiration, some others an example to follow, others say that it has to do more with humility.

For me, being a leader is someone willing to motivate, drive and see for others. A leader is someone who has a high level of empathy, is someone who does not judge deliberately, if he is someone who is an example person.

But I think that leaders do not go with that goal for life, leaders want the common good and in addition, they become admired and followed people.

Being a leader is not having control of things, a leader is someone who does not seek to control, but to improve, to influence in a positive way.

Having said that, having already said my concept of what it means to be a true leader, I go back to the starting point.

I think that if you really want it and not because of admiration, but because you are a person concerned about the common good, you can become a great leader.

But I think that in these times we have a shortage of leaders, we have shortages of people looking for a common good. And it’s not that I want to sound pessimistic, I think I’m being extremely realistic.

A leader leaves the picture, of the established, not to do something bad, but to improve, innovate, propose and promote.

And when I say that the world has a lack of leaders, it is because I see people who follow the established and often do not even take the time to question.

Your level of empathy is minimal, your greed or hunger to excel is bigger than doing something more for people who need it.

We have become somewhat selfish, we no longer seek a common good, we seek what best suits us and it is over. And yes, the world needs more leaders and fewer sheep that just follow the established and do not dare to risk for more.

The world belongs to those who are willing to risk, fear, I believe, is also a key point for the shortage of leaders today. We are so afraid of risking that we prefer to stay in that comfort zone, where although we are not happy, we are within what is “good” and we can continue like this.

Then immediately there comes a mediocre attitude, everything opposite to a leader. Because leaders like everyone, know mediocrity, only that they do not accommodate that in their lives.

I believe that we can all be leaders, but not everyone wants to do it. Deep down they would like things to be different, but they are not doing anything to achieve that change.

Do you think you have enough to be a leader ?, and if you think so, what are you doing to become the people you would like to be?

We are full of dreams, of desires, but sometimes we are not able to move a single finger to begin the real change. It is laziness, mediocrity, fear and selfishness in many people that prevents them from being leaders.

And of course, there are people who do not feel worthy to be, this is more linked to the self-esteem of each person. Courage, perseverance, discipline, empathy and many other qualities that make a leader what he is, do not go out overnight, they work hard for them.

I have a task for you, in the morning that you look in the mirror, ask yourself if you are really becoming the person you want to be, the person you dreamed about. And if not, I recommend that you analyze your life, objectively (it can be difficult but not impossible), and ask yourself where you are, and what you are doing, to become a leader.

Opening the way in the face of adversity

“These are difficult times,” Carlos told me, a friend, a few days ago while we were having a coffee and chatting.

“Look, I tell you what I think are hard times, things are not like they used to be, before it was easier to be independent, to create your own company,” he told me and continued.

“Now, the world is in crisis, economic stability is a myth, I see crisis on all sides,” and while listening to him as he ventured with me, I asked him the following.

“Look Carlos, when were the easy times?” When I was younger, I heard the same story.

The times are difficult for the person who wants to be difficult, the entrepreneur learns to see opportunities where others only see the problems.

I went on saying that many of the obstacles we have are more mental than real. Come on, sometimes in our mind, we create catastrophic scenarios of events that have not occurred. We let ourselves be invaded by pessimism, we believe what others repeat and we do not allow ourselves to experience things on our own.

Carlos was silent, thinking, maybe he was right … “Carlos … you are still in your job” sure “, you have not taken that step of undertaking, because you keep repeating to yourself time and again that times are difficult, you yourself have programmed to not achieve what you propose, what do not you see? “, I commented.

He was silent, as if stunned, he realized at that precise moment, that what he was saying was not bullshit. It was real, never had the opportunity to undertake, for fear of an unexplained scenario.

What a dilemma! How many times have we not blocked for fear of things that DO NOT exist ?, Carlos was one of those people, that like you or me, many times we have stopped by fear.

The times are not difficult, nor easy, the times are the times and it’s over. If you, like Carlos, you are going to stop experimenting because of what others say, you are lost, you are finished, you are going, you have not even started the game and you are already lost.

Nobody, absolutely nobody deserves to be in a job that does not love, does not deserve to be in a job that does not love because it is something “safe”, because you receive a payroll. That sooner than later will end up consuming you, it will end.

One day you will wake up unhappy, dissatisfied, tired, fed up, because you are not doing what you want, what you really want to do.

Carlos, he was one of them, a man who lived for his work, not for himself. We are afraid to fail, but never give ourselves the opportunity to even try.

And it is that failure is not a bad thing, you must take away that idea from your head, failure is learning, it is part of life, we will not always succeed, it will not always come out as we wish.

But it is better to try to stay with the desire to have done it, one day you are young and the next you wake up with a couple of years on top. I do not want you to get to that moment where you wonder what you did with your life all this time.

And it is that the time we do not have it bought, today you are and tomorrow no longer. And many times we stop, we block because we think we have time, and we leave things for later, and sometimes that does not exist later, sometimes it is NOW or NEVER.

I know it may sound very trite, but it is an absolute truth. Times always change and adversity can work as a catapult for your success, to achieve what you set out to do. Everything is in your mind, are you a winner or a loser?

And as I said to Carlos that afternoon, everything is in you. I will never tire of repeating that when we change an idea, we change our destiny.

Ideas can be molded, changed, eliminated, we have that power and it is incredible that we are not taking advantage of it.

The mind is extremely powerful, we have the power to create, to shape our destiny, the decisions we make today will echo in tomorrow.

What decisions are you taking?

I invite you to like Carlos, stop repeating something that you have not lived, that you risk, that you take control of your future, your present, your life.

I invite you to do it, do not stay with the doubt. If you do what you really want, what you love, believe me that success will come, because that is how life works. We do what we love for love, the money comes in addition.

What are you doing in your life ?, Do you think you have time ?, Analyze it TODAY, not tomorrow, TODAY.

Learn to deal with daily stress

We live in times where the word stress makes us extremely familiar, it is something that we see every day and we have suffered at some time.

The world is going so fast that many people are constantly stressed.

Many times we are so focused on our work, our working life, that we forget the most important thing, we neglect ourselves.

Being a successful person and being in a process of constant improvement can be exhausting, that can cause us stress.

Believe me, I understand perfectly the stress, the pressure that many times we live for being enterprising and ambitious people.

And being in constant improvement is not a bad thing at all. The bad thing is when we allow stress to control our lives and that is when the problems come.

I want you to understand that it is totally normal to feel stress, but we must learn to control it, not that stress controls us.

That is why I have given myself the task of mentioning some extremely valuable techniques to deal with stress.

Get rid of the source of your stress

Stress always has a reason to exist, that is why you must identify the source. It can usually be your job, in many cases.

But this can only be a panorama, what I mean, is that you must identify the source of your stress and get rid of it.

It may be difficult at first, but if it brings you more bad times than good, it’s time to reconsider what direction your life is taking.

Meditation

Your mind, is the source of all your thoughts, the good and the bad.

Our mind is like a machine that is working all the time, not for ever, unless we make it stop.

Meditation can help you to put your mind in white, to rest your mind, to calm the machine, to put it at rest.

It is extremely important to have a calm, relaxed mind that thinks coolly.

Stress can be noticeably reduced with meditation.

Do exercise

Another way to get rid of stress is by exercising.

Exercise is extremely important, it keeps you healthy, it is a way to get rid of stress and daily worries and it gives you a good quality of life.

You may think you do not have time, but believe me there is always time. With 40 minutes a day is more than enough to free you from the stress that torments you.

Eat healthy

Eating healthy is a fundamental part of taking care of ourselves and reducing stress.

When we go through a tense moment, we get angry, our body in general suffers, but especially our stomach.

Has not it happened to you that you are under a lot of pressure and you feel a void or some strange sensation in your stomach?

Our stomach is like our second brain, and that is why we must take great care of it.

Eating healthy is a way to pamper and take care of our stomach. Imagine that you make your stomach go through bad times due to stress and apart from junk food. It is a double problem.

You can also consume herbs and plants that have a calming and stimulating effect on our stomachs.

Rest enough

If your work or life is stressful, if you are under pressure daily, if your pace of life is extremely accelerated. It is necessary to rest well.

At the beginning of this post I commented that it is necessary to take care of ourselves, to invest time in ourselves.

Sleeping is essential to be able to perform in our day to day.

Our body needs to rest and sleep enough to be well, to be healthy and calm.

Sleep is a natural mechanism that allows our body to restore its energy reserves and is also a natural way of dealing with stress.

If you do not sleep enough, the stress will begin to accumulate and you will get worse.

But if we sleep enough each night, our tolerance to stress increases greatly and our alertness during the day remains high.

These are just some tips, however, if you have other activities in mind that will help you relax, like taking a vacation, go ahead. Remember that stress should not dominate your life, you should live peacefully, calmly. Nothing is more valuable than our tranquility, our well-being.